Got a precious few moments of peace today – our toddler, Amber is at my parents and Ollie, our newborn baby is asleep. I have to add here – look how gorgeous he looks while he’s sleeping. But look at him when he’s crying! I don’t think I’ve ever seen a grumpier face – I’ll have to show this picture to his first girlfriend!
- The grumpiest baby in the world!
- And our lovely, sweet Ollie when he’s sleeping
Things reached a fever pitch last week when I had the two kids crying at the same time. Ollie crying because he was so tired and Amber crying because Rob had to leave her for work. In the end, I had to let Ollie cry as the rocking and patting in a dark room were simply not working and Amber was getting more hysterical as time went on. It was a hard thing to do but the best thing in a way. Amber calmed down pretty quickly and Ollie went off to sleep soon after.
Despite it being so busy at the moment, I’d have to say I am enjoying motherhood with my second baby. And so far, so good with the insomnia and post-natal anxiety – no bursting into tears all the time and going back to sleep soon after feeding at night time. I also enjoy seeing where my little girl Amber is at and comparing her to when she was Ollie’s age. And I’m happy with how far we’ve come along as a family.
Our family really does feel complete now. I had a check up with my obstetrician this week. It was basically a nice chance to catch up and say thank you. We also chatted about how I’m 100% confident I won’t be having another child but I did ask him, “Out of interest and PURELY out of interest, how many caesareans can a woman have?” (Despite wanting a natural birth each time, I’ve had to accept this wasn’t possible for me, given the size of my babies and the size of my pelvis.) Apparently, he’s not aware of any maximum figure but did mention that a client of his has had 6 caesareans! And he reckons her uterus could have survived another!
The best moment so far in having 2 kids has to be seeing them together and Amber giving Ollie a big cuddle. She is just thrilled to bits having a baby brother in her life. I think it certainly helped that the whole time I was pregnant, we told her that it was “her baby”. And she’s eager to help whenever I ask her to bring me a cloth for Ollie or pass me a cushion for feeding. Its also amazing to see that I have doubled the amount of love available in me for my two kids. Before Ollie came along, I actually wondered how I could love another child as much as I love Amber – it seems that we not only grow an extra baby inside us but we grow an extra space in our heart when we’re pregnant.
Hands up who’s still been in their maternity clothes 6 weeks after giving birth? Me for one! My tummy still hasn’t quite got back to its previous shape as my toddler pointed out in her very direct and innocent way. That’s a bit depressing, especially when I remember my mum pointing out how wonderful Cate Blanchett looked just days after giving birth to her last child. I do take it with a grain of salt though. After working in magazine design for so long, I’m well aware of the extensive photoshop work that goes on to make celebrity mums look so glamourous.
Unfortunately, there hasn’t been much chance to do a whole lot of exercise of late – there just doesn’t seem to be any time. We also do need to get a double pram. However, I’m not sure I can push my 15kg toddler, 5kg baby and a 10kg pram up the huge hills that surround our house!
On the upside though, I still get to wear my maternity clothes such as my maternity mini skirt which I’m so fond of. Its also really comfortable continuing to wear maternity pants or skirts with a soft underbelly band when you’ve had a caesarean section like I have. The wound area still feels a bit tender. And doesn’t it feel like you’ve just had the longest period ever after giving birth!
Looks aside though, I am enjoying motherhood the second time round much more than the first. Its just so cute seeing our almost 3 year old girl beaming from ear to ear when she sees little Ollie. I feel truly fortunate to have a healthy and loving family around me.
I’ve just had another instance of baby brain today. I actually managed to get myself out of the house today without the help of mum or Rob but realised when I was halfway to my destination that:
a) I didn’t have any money on me – left the handbag at home and
b) I hardly had any petrol in the car and wasn’t sure if I would make it to my destination
That’s not too bad though – compared to yesterday when I walked out of the house to get some take away and came back home… and then realised I’d left buttons undone on my top from breastfeeding. At least I didn’t see anyone I knew while I was out.
And then there was the weekend, when we went to yum cha. Poured myself some tea, only not into the cup, but into my bowl of food.
The worst was probably filling out my daughter’s information sheet from child care. We were asked to list all the members of our family. So I wrote mum, David, Amber and Ollie. I got Rob to check the form out as I had a faint feeling that something wasn’t right – and then he asks, “Who the hell is David?” Umm, and I protested as sincerely as possible, “I don’t know any David, its just baby brain – you’re definitely the father!”
I’m sure there are loads of funny baby brain incidents out there – would love to hear yours as laughter seems to be the best medicine when you’re exhausted and still have a tonne of washing to do, the dinner to cook , the children to bathe…